It makes me feel sad when someone does something wrong, regardless of whether deliberately or not, and is even the first to make a big fuss when s/he learns that someone felt bad about it. It turns me off when s/he resorts to seeking help from other people and muddling up the issue. Why not face the issue yourself, stop being defensive and adding up other issues, focus on that particular deed, and ask yourself objectively if it really was wrong or not? And if your consultant tells you that it was wrong, wouldn’t it be a lot better and more mature of you to own up to your mistake, say sorry, and then just shut up afterwards?  

I’m not the type who walks around hiding daggers while waiting for an opportunity to stab other people’s backs. I’ve always believed that being open about my feelings and opinions works well in building trusting and lasting friendships.  I’ve always been careful, polite and discreet in handling conflicts, which is why I could not understand why someone would choose to overreact and involve other people in the issue. Especially if s/he was NOT the one I was communicating and trying to smooth things out with to protect an existing friendship, in the first place. Expectedly, my friend reacted positively and we were able to get rid of whatever ill feelings we (or I) had. She said she’ll explain everything to that other person, but as long as my friends and I are in good terms and are clear on where we stand, I don’t really care.

So why did this happen? I don’t have the answer, and I don’t even want to hazard a guess about the motivation behind it. All I know is that it’s not a fault of mine. I was just reacting to something that rightfully made me feel bad, and tried to save a friendship with someone I care about. So to befuddle us all some more, let’s just quote a batchmate here: He who has no stone, cast the first sin.   

Again, my horoscope reading offers something amusing:

The Bottom Line

To see the clear picture, you need to connect the dots and fill in missing details.

In Detail

You have a knack for putting intangibles into words. This will come in handy when some 'hard to put your finger on' tensions are building at work. Who'll step in to save the day by telling the boss that nobody's happy about the change in the office break room from caffeinated coffee to decaf? You will. Who will suggest that maybe you're all due for overtime payments? You will. It's a tough job, but somebody's got to do it.

Nah, I don’t think so. Maybe some other Aquarian, but not meeeh!